But you know sometimes you secretly pretend that you are.

For a feature I’m working on for REDBOOK magazine, I’m looking for women (sorry guys–I promise someday I’ll ask for your input on something, really) who will admit to employing business management techniques to get what they want from their partners.

One friend insists that unless she treats her husband “like an entry-level employee and clearly lays out the day’s expectations on paper” nothing ever gets done.

What’s your marriage-management secret? One minute praise? Conscious paradigm shifts? Pretend he’s a hedgehog? (I am pretty sure I read about that once.)

Since you may not wish for your partner to know exactly how crafty you are, your replies can be anonymous.

Many thanks!